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About My Tied up Tickle Photo

I've had some people contact me asking about the picture right above of the girl tied up. Yes that's me. ;) Once I get my scanner working, I'm going to figure out how to get my tickle torture photos up on the computer so I can upload them for you all to see. I have a library of tickling video clips as well, but I'm just trying to take it a step at a time. Hope that knocks off some curiousity for some of you people. :)

Tickle Torture Fantasies

How many of you actually fulfill the fantasies you think about? I had this one tickle torture fantasy for a long time, and never had it fulfilled....up until recently that is.

My fantasy was doing a bit of role playing. I would be at home by myself, just got out of the shower, and sat down on the couch for a little R&R. While laying back and reading a book, a robber would sneak through the back door, hold me up at gun point, and roll me up tightly in my area rug like a sardine. Then the intruder would tickle torture my feet with a feather and hairbrushes while I'm completely helpless. He would lightly blow warm air on the bottom of my sensitive feet, lightly brush his lips on them and go back to the tickle torture.

I'm happy to say I finally had this fantasy fulfilled. So what is your fantasy and what is stopping you from making it happen?

My Tickle Torture Tickler

I have a tickle torture story for you readers about some tickle sex I had with a guy that comes to town on business a couple times a year.

The last time Gavin was in town, he got a penthouse suite at a 5 star hotel downtown and let me know as soon as he got into town so we could get started on our routine tickle torture party. Gavin immediately tied me in the spread eagle position on the soft, king size bed. The feeling of being helpless is hard at first, but after you ease into it, the tickle torture will make you completely forget about how uncomfortable you are. I don't think the clock moved once after Gavin began to tickle me in all my most sensitive areas.

This tickle torture was a little different from the routine tickling fights we get into. After he had me tied up, it's like he transformed into this ruthless, hardcore tickler that showed absolutely no mercy. He can't get normal hotel rooms because the people would hear my screaming cries of agony and think something is wrong. Gavin did a feet tickle torture all the way up to an armpit tickle torture. I was so weak and helpless, I couldn't walk for the rest of the day.

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My love questions whether or not you can find someone who can meet all your needs and desires..and I was somewhat upset by that, I took it personally as that he was saying that I cannot fullfill his needs and desires, and I now understand. I am confident that I can meet his desires and needs in our relationship but also understand that to measure a relationship with the yardstick of looking for everything in one person is not possible. There is not one person that can meet every need and desire, it's unnatural. That is why we have relationships with other people. Now that doesn't mean sexually intimate relationships with other people, it refers to having different needs met by friends, family, co-workers etc. They all meet our different needs in their own seperate ways.

I love him and want to grow with him, experience with him, to inspire each other while still giving each other freedom to grow as individuals. I love him for what and who he is.

I'm so happy that I really looked into this and have had this understanding as I've been somewhat pertrubed by this and questionning it myself.

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Hey everyone, I'm bored and have no homework, so I thought I would blog a story about me getting tickle tortured during my freshman year in college.

There are two people who know about my love for being tickled, well I guess you guys know now! ha. Anyways, all three of us joined up for volleyball. (lame, yes I know) One day after practice, I was one of the last ones to walk back into the locker room. As I was walking in, the girls kept looking back at me and kind of smirking. I had a gut feeling something was up their sleeves, but didn't pay any attention to it. Little did I know I had a tickle horror experience coming my way.

I start to open my locker, and my two friends Kelly and Stacia almost tackle me and start tickling the shit out of my ribs. The other girls got in on it too and before I knew it, I was straddled and being tickled all over my entire body simultaneously. There was no escaping because I had to girls to each limb. I was 100% helpless and this tickle horror wasn't getting any better. I was laughing, crying, and screaming all at once. Let me tell you, it was an extreme rush!

Just your non-average Ticklee Girl

Hello and thanks for visiting my first blog about tickling. Every since I was a teenager, I've always loved to be put through Tickle Horror and nothing since has changed.

I'm going to pack this blog full of real tickle horror stories for your entertainment. Some of these stories actually happened to me and some are a fantasy I would love to live out. Either way I know you will enjoy.

First off my name is Jardine and I'm 22. I currently just started my junior year in college and when my face isn't stuck between the pages of my books, I'm online writing tickle horror stories, watching videos on ticklehorror.com, or trying to find someone in this darn city that is into tickling as much as me. :)

This will be a fun little project for me and I hope to meet other people who enjoy a truly hardcore tickling as much as I do.

Tickling Links

Hey tickle fans, today turned out to be a good day. It started out a bummer because I get slammed with a shit ton of homework and after studying for almost 2 hours, I thought I'd mess around on google and find tickling communities. I guess I'm still a virgin to the internet because I was involved with a lot of sports, but it's like a hit a gold mine tonight. I found a huge tickling community called Tickling Media Forum. There are 1000's of other people who share the same tickling fetish and now I feel complete. ha! No really, it's a great discovery. If you guys know of other sites like this, make sure to keep me informed!

Tied Spread Eagle and Tickled

I want to share a story about the first time I was tied spread eagle and tickled until bursting out in hysterical laughter. It was with my last boyfriend I had before I moved away to college last year. He was more into me dominating him, which didn't help our sex life because I wanted him to throw me around, tie me up and be rough.

One day I arranged for him and I to be alone and he didn't know one of my best friends was about to get involved. When Candace got there, she had some ropes with her and you should have seen the look on Gavin's face. Candace ripped off my clothes, pushed me on the bed and started tying me up. Gavin didn't know what to think of it, but when Candace grabbed him by the cock and pulled him to the bed, he knew he was about to experience something unlike any other. Candace started off by torturing my armpit with her long fingernails. She told Gavin to give me feet tickle torture with the feather in the bag she brought. He started rubbing my feet while Candace moved towards one of my most ticklish spots, the neck. This went on for over an hour and I was in tickling ecstacy. It was a feeling I hope anyone with a tickling fetish gets to experience sometime during their life.

Diary of My Tickling Fetish

I'll start with your basic introduction. My real name is Chloe and I've always been more of an outcast throughout school and I'm now in my freshman year at college. I have two other siblings and growing up they would always tickle torture me and it would always amaze them that I kept coming back for more.

Well 10 years later, I'm 19 and nothing has changed. I absolutely love being tickled and I'm extremely ticklish. I take tickling to the extreme and I have yet to find someone who I can share my tickling fetish with. That's why I decided to blog about it in hopes that I will find other people who are into extreme tickling like myself. I'll be posting stories about both fantasies and real life tales of my tickling fetish that I hope you will enjoy.

Feel open to leave feedback on my little place in cyberspace and be sure to check often because it's a lonely ticklish world. ;p

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He asked me how I describe our relationship and I just said that i say that he's my man. I think that boyfriend sounds very juvenile and doesn't exactly fit us, it's hard to define our relationship. When I asked him he said that he considers me his companion, at first I wasn't too sure how I felt about that but now I actually think I like that, it's more dignified and original.

I haven't heard had much contact with him this week, he is busy and everyone likes to have space as well. I didn't behave very well yesterday with him and he was rightfully irritated and annoyed with me, I was rude. I sent him a message apologizing for my behaviour and wishing him a good night. I hope that he does accept my apology. What I stopped by for could've waited until I saw him next and I should've waited for him to give me the go ahead to bring it to him before I did, interrupting him in his work.

This has been a crazy week for me, I was on my period and my emotions and hormones were just going haywire. Also, I miss him. I like spending time with him.

I deleted my last two entries as they were written when I was feeling very emotional and obviously not thinking properly.

God, I hope he comes to me...I want him so much, I ache for him. I love having sex with him and orgasming with him. Sex is a big part of our relationshiip. I have a big sex drive but he satisfies me very well, almost a week is getting a little long. Starting to go stir-crazy...lol

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My new slave was doing so well till last week. I knew punishment was in order, but it became obvious that that was what he desired when he continued to do things obviously wrong.

He first didn't call or email when leaving town, so he missed our scheduled day and time. He next didn't bring what i had ordered for lunch, but had instead brought something completely different. Then when he finally arrove it was an hour late with no call, and when I called, he had cut off the ringer till he was there.

Now why is it that these boys don't grasp that punishment doesn't necessarily mean spanking. It means a consequence of action dictated by those in authority which is given in a way so unpleasant as to discourage one from ever making the same mistake twice.

As a sadist I find no pleasure in administering punishment. I find causing pain a bore and sometimes even an annoyance when it is required rather than done because it merely pleases Me. I do not give punishment when enraged, nor do I yell. I think such things are a sign of a Dominants lack of self control, and therefore an opening to be manipulated easily by their emotions and ego... and some bottoms are not really submissive so they often delight in provoking Dommes in this state.

In punishment there is no consensual negotiation. In punishment there are no safe words. In punishment there is no compassion in the act, and no warming up. Any compassion afterwards is to the discretion of those administering or sentencing the punished slave.

Up until this point, he was a very good boy. He had been good beyond that of most I have met seeking to be My slave. I did take this into consideration and though I used My favorite and most brutal paddle, I did not lay into him with the true might of My naturally heavy hand. I also didn't give more than 100 strokes. Regardless his ass was deeply marked by the light lacquered pine paddle with in the first strike.

That paddle is so light it flies with no effort so when I desire to, I can paddle non-stop for an hour with out tiring. It is so slick and light that I knew I had to gag hi before we started because the screams would have been loud, and we already were going to be too noisy with each swooping "whack".

When done his ass was solidly colored very dark and the flesh was swollen and thick. I now won't be able to use him in shoots till he has returned to normal, so his usefulness will be limited for the time being... though I will be seeing him tomorrow to follow up on how he is doing after today. Till then I will be playing with others who had been waiting for a chance.

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My favorite toilet bitch is one I met only 3 weeks ago, and have seen him 3 times since. He is an attractive boy but utterly filthy and I only make him filthier!

Today, as I ate the breakfast he bought Me, I had him serve as a foot slave as I ate. That isn't so unusual for even the most inexperienced Mistress, so this was not to a seasoned pro such as Myself either. There most definitely was a catch... isn't there always?

You see, I am not known for wearing shoes most of the time and that leads to the most blackened soles you have seen, I'm surprised I never did this before with the result I had this morning. The filth must have been worse than ever!

I had the slave do a very good job cleaning the blech black from my soles by the use of just his teeth. It is most pleasurable, not only as a sorce of sadistic entertaibment, but as a sensation...prrrr.

He worked so diligently as he was in near tears from the filth, taste, humiliation and degradation that I soon started to notice hi mouth and chin were covered in saliva that resembled Tammy Fay Baker's mascara stained streaks. His tongue had turned black like a child who has been sucking a jawbreaker.

This ended as I came to the close of the meal, but the session continued well beyond. The following play was not for the weak of stomach, nor faint of heart, and is most disgusting as he is a toilet. Even this half of the session was the same old act but taken to a whole new level today.

We must have been unusually extra synced to each other today. By the end of the scene he and I were so into our respective headspaces that he was crying while shouting out something in Korean and I swear to god I understood it.

After we stopped and before he hit the shower I asked i\im if I was mistaken or did I accurately understand what he was saying despite our language barrier. I asked him, "Were you just praying for forgiveness for being so fithy in Korean.". I was right; he was.

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You've decided that BDSM is for you. You're kinky, now what? There is a huge amount of information floating around the Internet. Some of it is great, some is horrible. If you're reading this, then you are probably interested in my opinion. So here an introduction from my point of view. (Your mileage may vary.)

The first thing to remember is: I am not into online BDSM. There will be some things that apply, but most of what I discuss involves real life interaction.

We'll start with a few basic things that everyone into BDSM needs to know. While there are very few absolute rules, there are some common practices and terms you should know.

Does being kinky make me a freak?

The short answer is no. Want a longer answer? "Normal" doesn't exist. There will always be someone who considers you a freak. There will always be people that you think fit the term "freak". Everyone makes judgment based on their own definition of normal.

Much of what we like may vary from what our friends and families understand. Some people need to be tied up to get turned on, others need soft music and dim lighting.

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I will now give you the one absolute universal truth of BDSM. Not knowing this truth will instantly prove your lack of experience and understanding. No respectable member of the community will give you the time of day.

Ready?

Consent. This is the one absolute rule. In BDSM everyone involved must be able to understand and consent to whatever is going to happen. If a person cannot consent (either by age, mental state, or because of drugs or alcohol) then they can't play.

BDSM is not abuse. There is a difference between abuse and BDSM practices. The person being abused did not consent to it.

An outsider may see a BDSM relationship as abusive, but the consent is there. A sadist in BDSM looks for willing partners to "hurt". The sadist will take steps to avoid actual harm. They remain withing the limits their partner asked for. A criminal sadist isn't concerned with safety or consent.

Limit? What are those?

Everything in BDSM takes place within negotiated limits. The Dominant partner (the one in control) and the submissive partner (the one giving up control) discuss what is going to happen. If one person won't do something, this is a hard limit.

The Dominant has most of the control, but the submissive's limits are respected. These may change as the relationship changes, but there are always some limits.

Not everyone negotiates the same way. Some prefer detailed checklists about with experience laid out. Other use a few short questions.

(Short note, if someone ignores your concerns and limits- run away, fast. Ignoring limits and reasonable questions can be a sign of a careless and possibly dangerous person.)

What is your safe word?

Limits leads to the next important area, safe words. The safe word is what is used to instantly stop a scene. When a safe word is used, everything stops.

A safe word needs to be something that wouldn't normally be used. Things like "stop" and "no" a usually never used. ("No, don't, stop" can actually be "Yes more" or actually mean "Stop now"). By using a totally different word, misunderstandings avoided. The safe word also needs to be something easily remembered.

There is also a common code used. Red for "stop now", yellow for "This might be too much for me. I need to stop soon", and green for "Everything is fine, keep going".

You may hear about people that don't use safe words. This is a bad idea, unless you have a lot of experience and absolute trust in the other person. So unless you have been with your partner for a long time and know the person very well (their reaction and body language) use a safe word.

Common Terms - What's in name?

There are some common terms used to define roles. I wrote or some of these in a past article, so I'll just cover two main ones here. In a future article, I'll write about roles in more detail. This is almost over simplified, don't take it as the end of the discussion.

The top is the person doing the action. If one person is spanking the other, the spanker is the top. In most situation the top is also responsible for safety.

In the same spanking, the spankee is he bottom. The bottom is the one having something done to them.

These two (top and bottom) are the most basic of roles. They simply indicate who is doing something and who is receiving.

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Different people use different term to describe a BDSM session. I will generally use play. For me it is play, I'm having fun (and hopefully so is my partner). For me a scene would involve more role play than I usually engage in. If I refer to a scene, it is usually something I've planned out well in advance. I will have a setting, situation, props, and other people involved. Play is spontaneous, I'll do whatever comes to mind.

Some people use session, to me it sounds to professional. I have used the term when that was what seemed to fit (if it is more for the other person at their request than more my own pleasure).

The exact term isn't important. A scene (or whatever you prefer) is the period of time the activity is happening. At a recent party I was involved in two small scenes with my sub. He wanted to try a pony cart. So he pulled the cart and I rode it. A little later he wanted some knife play. I did a small cutting on his arm. Both "scenes" lasted under 30 minuets each, but we enjoyed them.

The important part is: when it is finished, did both of you enjoy it? If not, try something else next time.

Safe Calls

This is possibly the second most important point (the first being CONSENT). A safe call is something you use to protect yourself. Most people use them when meeting someone new. They can also be used when trying new things. Basically, you have a trusted friend that has all the details about where you are going and who you are meeting. If you don't call them at a certain time, either they call you and check on how you are. (In this case you would also have a code for emergencies where you can't just say "call the cops"). In some cases if you don't call, they call the police and give them all the information.

A safe call can be used with people you a comfortable with too. Lets say you are tied up and the top trips and hits his head (knocking him out). If you don't check in with your safe call, the other person come to check on you. If you don't have anyone checking in, depending on how hard the top hit, you could be lying there for a long time.

Most safe and experienced players won't mind that you set up safe call. Some people actually prefer or even require it.

This short article isn't even a summary of the basics. Consider it more like skimming over random flash cards. There is a lot more to learn.

There will be more articles here. You can always join a reputable site and read their message boards. (Message board tip- use the search function for questions before you post. You will find that a lot of your question may have already been asked and answered.)

Last, nothing beats munches and discussion groups that meet offline. Get involved locally and get to know real people.

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First Entry of this Blog

Greetings dear Staff and students of Second Life's BDSM School of Submission.

As I promised in class I now opened a weblog for our school. The purpose of it is to inform you frequently about the teaching schedule and teaching subjects.

Staff and members of our school can use the blog for announcements, comments, suggestions etc. As well as random information about the BDSM Community in Second Life. I've sent Angelica, the owner of our school, full permission to edit this Blog. I await her comments!

Feel free to write your entries and comments in this Blog for us all to read. Post pictures and links as you wish. You may also wish to add this Blog to the weblink in your avatar's profile.

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Thoughts on Being the Bottom

A recent thread on a BDSM message board had an interesting discussion going. The sub were discussing how they feel about their Masters and Doms doing any form of switching. The general thread (with very little disagreement) was that it was a big problem. Most would lose all respect for their top, others simply wouldn't want to know about it (don't ask, don't tell). It didn't matter why or exactly what was being done (demo bottom, actual submitting, or bottoming for pleasure).

After reading the thread, I was even happier to have the sub that I do. I bottom (never sub) because I like pain and sensation play. One of his jobs as my sub is to be on hand when I'm done. He takes care of any aftercare (and after play cuddles). He enjoys watching me get played with and has learned to do some of the things I like (like using floggers and single tails). In some ways he respects me more because I can take much more pain than he can. There is also a little fear there since there is one rule we have that if broked, he receives the same number of cane strokes I can take.

Perhaps because his former Domme is a full switch, he sees things differently. We are the only two Dommes he has ever served. But from discussions we have had, it seems that it works like this: he respects and trusts me-> I respect and trust someone enough to let them top me-> the one topping me can be trusted and deserves respect. He doesn't see it as a form of weakness.

So it got me wondering, just how rare of a find is my sub? He was very sought after when I collared him (and still is, there would be a line of Domme trying to put a collar on him if I released him). My first impression was that he was sought after for his wonderful personality and openness to trying new things. But, now I think are just part of the things that make him a rare and special find.

(Hmmm... that sounds like "my sub is better than your sub" . Mine is the perfect sub [ for me] )

What's In A Label?

Submissive, Slave. or Bottom

A discussion in the Doms group and with my sub inspired me to put my thoughts down on labels we use in the lifestyle.

Bottoms

A bottom is very different from either a sub or slave. Bottoms don't give up any power or authority. A bottom is the receiver of the tops actions. A Dom like me that like to receive may act as a bottom and still be the one in control (as almost any top I've scened with can testify, I am no sub). Top and bottom roles involve the S&M side of the lifstyle only. A couple can play out fantasies or try new things and never have a power exchange of any kind.

Submissive

A submissive gives up control to a Dom. How much control and when are talked over, rules are discussed and adapted. Some subs want to be told everything, others want to be controled in very specific ways and only at certain times. They retain authority over their own lives. A sub can opt out if any scene or veto it all together if they want to.

Subs obey if they think the Doms judgement is better than theirs (even when they disagree). They can and often will express their disagreement. A sub choses to set aside their personal thoughts and opinions to follow. They seek to be controlled, but how much control and when are topics for discussion.

Slave

A slave gives up both power and authority over their lives. It isn't a question of limits, everyone has limits even if they think they don't. Slaves give their personal rights over to the Master. To me its more internal than external. Being a slave involves not only following directions, but making even you're thoughts agree with the Master. A slave has given up the right to stop a scene or to refuse to obey. In a Master/slave relationship, the slave gives everything they have, are, and can be.

A slave doesn't need to think about obedience, it is in who they are. They naturally think of their Master first, the Master's pleasure and needs. The slave finds their place in service.

Examples

I'll use some everyday things from life to help explain my thoughts.

Power and authority in the lifestyle can be hard to pin down because the issues are very personal and complex. It can be a little easier to see in other situations.

Lets say you come up on someone being mugged (keep it simple no weapons, the mugger is unarmed and over powering a little old lady). If you are bigger and stronger than the mugger, you can over power him and resuce the little old lady. If the mugger gets hurt, he can sue you (can happen and has happened). You had the power (ability) to stop him, but not the authority.

Now if you find the same situation and you are also a cop, the mugger is for the most part out of luck. A cop has both the power and authority to intervene. The mugger broke the law, the cop has the authority to enforce the law.

A Dom has the power to make decision and create rules. For whatever reason the sub has given them that power (and can take it back at any time). A Master has not only the power, but the authority. The slave gave it to them.

The difference between sub and slave can be a very fine one. It is wrapped up in the dynamic to the people involved. A sub can act like a slave (obey every rule, always defer to the Dom) and still call themselves a sub. A person can be a slave and appear to everyone else to be sub. The Doms and Masters set the rules, a Dom may want their sub to be a slave. The sub can say sure, and play the role for a time. A Master may want their slave to appear very independent, to express their thoughts and ideas.

Summary

Only the people involved in a relationship can decide what is right for them. Sometimes they pick a label because it feels right or is the one others would understand best.

In the lifestyle intimate details of trust, love, loyalty, and integrity color the dynamic. There are no universal rules. But no matter your role or label, sooner or later you find your place.

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Lauren's Story: Chapter One:A bowl of oatmeal.

"GET OUT! You ungrateful American bitch!"
"I never want to see your ugly face again!"
"Darken my doorstep and I will call the polizei on you!"
The door slammed and the torrent of blistering German continued to spew from behind the door. As she bent to get her foot in her shoe, there was the crash of breaking glass and the strangled strains of Puff the Magic Dragon wound out of what could only be her now shattered music box.
Lauren struggled to get into her coat.
As she headed for the landing, she heard the click of Mrs. Baumhauer’s door closing. “Nosy old baggage” she growled as she passed.

A glance at the cheap digital watch strapped to her wrist showed the time as 11:49. Try as she might, she hadn’t gotten used to military time, or Nicolas’ anal-retentive adherence to schedules. She wore the watch so she knew what time it was, amidst his references to twenty hundred hours, along with so many other things she didn’t know.

It was just one more event in a long line of events that had caused this latest fuck-up in the long line of fuckups that was Lauren Morgan’s young life. Alone, damn near penniless and with nowhere to go, in a foreign country no less. Could it get any better?

Stepping out into the deserted street was like a punch in the chest.
“I’m utterly screwed” she thought, and headed down the street towards the bus stop, at least there was a bench there, so she could stop and tie her shoes. The bus stop reeked of fresh piss; someone, probably one of Frankfurt’s numerous homeless, had decided the bus stop was a toilet. Lauren put one foot on the bench to tie her shoe and paused to watch a big black Mercedes with pitch-black windows slowly cruise by.

Shoes tied and wishing for a scarf and gloves, she set off for the Hauptbahnhof; at least there’d be hot coffee and a place to sit for a while and think about what to do.
The bahnhof was a old dayglo poster colored pool of orangish light, striped with a school of yellow taxi fish, reflected in the glass, their dark drivers snoozing or smoking, a few late-night travelers dreamily reeling about. She entered the enormous building, and decided the café closest to the expanse of windows would be a fine place to sit for a while. A blondish, rather matronly waitress brought a menu to the table and Lauren ordered a coffee. Her stomach rumbled, and she remembered the last thing she’d eaten was this morning, a bowl of oatmeal consumed in the tiny kitchen of Nicolas’ apartment.

The coffee arrived, and to Lauren’s surprise, half a sandwich and two cookies had been laid on the side of the saucer. “What’s this?” Lauren asked, “I didn’t order anything.” With a heavy accent, the waitress said, “You look like you need to eat. No charge.” And with that she walked away.
“Geez, I must look pretty rough…a bahnhof waitress having pity on me.” She thought to herself. The sandwich disappeared quickly, and the cookies, like all German pastries, were delicious. The waitress refilled Lauren’s coffee twice, as she sat, numbly watching the traffic around her slowly crawl to a halt.

The next time the waitress happened to look up from her station – Lauren asked, “Where is the toiletten?” The waitress pointed silently towards a dark hallway. She found the toilet, used it, and then washed her face with cold water. She did look awful, with dark circles under her green eyes, like someone had died in her arms, or she’d seen some horrific, bloody accident.
Heading toward the table, Lauren noticed her coffee cup was full again. She knew that bottomless cups of coffee weren’t the norm in Europe, only America, where consumption was only a good deal if it was endless. Someone had left a Frankfurter Allgemeine on a chair, so Lauren scooped it up as she walked back.

She sipped the coffee and perused the paper, trying to delay the inevitable leaving of the café, which brought two choices; she could go back to Nicolas’ apartment and beg and plead to get him to take her back in, or she could call her mother, and beg and plead for a plane ticket home.
The coffee isn’t working, Lauren thought, as she yawned hugely. Suddenly, she slumped over the table, forehead resting on the newspaper.
The waitress watched for a moment, then pulled a mobile phone from her apron pocket, and punched in a number.
“Come and get her now – she’s passed out.”

Spanking You

You know I have been waiting for this
Wanting Needing Desiring for your palm
To hear the wonderful sound of it

There is nothing more that I want than this

I got off work early b/c I had a feelin
That something was going to down today
Not something bad but something exciting

I have got your fav thongs on that u love
And my t-shirt

But some reason I get a text from you
Telling me that u wanna go out tonight

So I put on my sexi olive green dress
That hugs and my hips so gently
I climb out my hair and spray some
Butt Naked onmmmmmmmm

I slip into my matching heels and
As I sit and wait for to you
As my heart races for you to walk thru door

The Collar

It's just a piece of leather
That rests upon my neck
There are no jewels upon it
Nothing for which your eye to beck.

But to a submissive it has such meaning
That no Vanilla could hope to understand
To us it is the Alpha and the Omega
For it is placed upon us by our Masters hand.

Our vanilla sisters call us weak or foolish
To wear a sign of ownership so proud
But in the words of Master Shakespeare
"Me thinks they doth protest too loud"

For I once was as they are now
Ignorant of the joys they could not know
And as I kneel here at my Masters feet,
I realize that the first step to being raised above them, 'tis to kneel low.

To kneel before my Master
As doth the willow before the storm
To offer submission for His Dominance
This is no sickness, but 'tis the norm.

For what could be more natural
Than to accept for what my heart and soul doth crave
To kneel in pride before him and
say with pride to all the world
"He is my Master...i am His slave" .

'O my poor vanilla sisters
Who upon my head heap scorn,
Look deep inside your womanhood
And understand why for you I mourn.

I am a proud, yet humble submissive
I am what I was born to be
I do not rage against the feelings
within my heart and soul
I bow and accept them...instinctively.

It rather is you my sister who rages against what you are
Though you may deny it to your final breath.
But to refuse the dreams you have
in the dark of the night...
Is this not the most bitter of all forms of death?

And when you have those dreams in the dark of night
Tell me, of the "men" about whom you dream
Are they prim and proper and "politically correct"
Or do you dream of a somewhat darker scene?

Are those men strong and powerful?
Do they take and then smile
as you protest that you are cruel?
Do they use whip and flogger?
Cane, oar and crop?
To control and enforce their rule?

You know the answers deep down in your soul
Though the word on your lips are like dust
You know what the truth is
You have no excuses
My sister...tho are already one of us.

Caning

Canes have a deserved reputation as The Victorian Terror Weapon. To most submissives, they mean severe punishment; to sensation-seeking S/M bottoms, overload. If we have care and patience, however, canes can be used in a loving and sensuous way. The very stiffness of a good cane, that makes a hard stroke so intense, allows the lightest taps to be given with perfect control. And a light cane stroke is easy to aim, unlike a flexible whip that sags and flops at low power. In the kind of sensuous play I'm describing here, light strokes are far more prevalent and important than heavy ones.

This style is a matter of trust, patience, and finesse. If you can't gain, maintain, and deserve the bottom's trust, the whole thing is probably going to fail, or fall far short of what it could be. As for patience, don't even start a scene like this unless you have at least an hour available, and two is better. Finesse? Well, on two occasions bottoms have gone to sleep while I was caning them. They woke up black and blue, and giggling. That's finesse.

I'm not bragging, and I'm not saying I'm some kind of Caning God. It's learnable. That's why I'm writing this.

Caning Technique

A single cane can deliver an entire symphony of sensation. A snappy blow that is pulled back a bit just before impact will emphasize surface sting. The same sort of blow carried past the moment of impact, with follow-through, will have much more thud and penetration.

The greatest intensity is delivered by the outer third or so of the cane's length. This is the portion that leaves marks, in a hard blow. In a light blow, this part of the cane will have a relatively stingy feel. Closer to the top's hand, the cane moves much more slowly, and the sensation will be more thuddy or even massage-like. This allows a good way of maintaining rhythm and atmosphere while giving some relief to a bottom who is showing signs of overload.

The very tip of a cane can be used on many targets that a full-length blow might harm, or be unable to even reach. Tip shots can work the inside of the sweet spot, the bottoms of the feet, the muscles between the spine and the shoulder blades. A traditional cane stroke in any of these areas would cross bony areas, causing bone bruises and pain that is not at all erotic; a hard one might chip bones or crush nerves, and cause truly harmful damage. DON'T try for these with any force until you are utterly sure of your aim! Lighter tip shots are much safer, and feel much like percussion massage.

Setup

I prefer to have the bottom lying flat. When a person goes as deeply into bottom space as I hope to send them, the mere act of keeping their balance will be a distraction. Having them lie on a table is easiest on the top's back in these long scenes; massage tables are ideal, and cafeteria-type tables are sturdy and about the right height. Arrange padding if the table doesn't already have it; I usually bring a single-bed sheet and a roll of foam to parties and demos.

Second choice is ground level; on a mattress or futon, or the foam pad. Here the bottom will be laying prone and the top will sit or kneel beside them. On table or floor, it's nice to have three or four feet clear on either side of the bottom, so that you can switch sides. Since the tip of the cane always hits the hardest, switching sides will help to keep the caning symmetrical. Also, it allows the top's other hand to rove over a different part of the bottom's body. From one side, you can stroke, massage, caress, and collect feedback from feet, legs, and buttocks, and play with their crotch if it's that kind of scene. From the other, you caress their face, massage their back, grab hair or the back of their neck, play trust games with your finger between their teeth as you cane them...

A caning can be an awkward thing to deliver when the bottom is standing, especially if the top is taller. There is a strong tendency for strokes to land too high, on the bony upper half of the butt, when the bottom is standing up. Also, the sweet spot is hard to reach from this position. Going to one knee may help. Occasionally a play space may have a stage or platform of some kind, with bondage facilities near the edge of it. If you have the gear and knowhow to do it safely, suspension may also offer a way to get the bottom a foot or two higher.

I try to avoid the traditional bent positions for caning, where the recipient crouches or bends over a chair. For one thing, this stretched skin is much more sensitive. Victorian punishers wanted overload; for a sensuous caning we want to avoid it. For another, the tailbone comes up into harm's way when one bends over, and a hard cane stroke is quite capable of chipping it and inflicting a painful lifetime disability. Damaged tailbones don't heal! There is a lot of perfectly good buttock area that is hard to work safely from these positions; when the bottom's body is straight, much more of the tailbone is protected. When in doubt, run your finger down the spine, all the way into the crack of their ass; you can feel how far the tailbone goes. Check this each time; the length varies surprisingly among different people.

Warm-Up Technique

The best precondition for a trip to Endorphin Heaven is for the bottom to be deeply relaxed, trusting, not anticipating the next stroke but rather accepting. Going too hard or too fast will drop them out of their bottom space (that warm, accepting state of trust) at just the time when you should be building it up. Their hindbrain will take charge, and its ancient survival reflexes will start screaming "We're taking damage! Get us the hell out of here!" A good bottom wants the scene to go well, and will be working to control panic and nervousness. For this particular style of scene, the top must build the intensity so smoothly that the bottom is supported rather than challenged in their efforts to stay centered and accepting.

Of course, some people warm up much faster than others. "Smooth" is one thing; boring is quite another. In initial negotiations, I mention this, and if we are using the "traffic light" safewords I point out that "green" is also a color, and that they can always call for a speedup if they want one.

As we begin, I like to promise that I will escalate the intensity very gradually - something like "no stroke will be more than a third harder than I've already given you".nfo s helps them relax. You need to keep this promise, too; surprises will tense them up for a long while afterwards. Resist the temptation to tease them or fake them out, for the same reason.

I often begin with an ordinary massage. I explore the muscles of the back, buttocks, and legs, checking for tense spots and taking whatever time is needed to relax them and establish an expectation of pleasure from my touch. Massage is itself an endorphin releaser, and very non-threatening. When a bottom is new to this technique, their delighted surprise can relax them, build a lot of trust early on, and give them confidence that there are rewards to be had in exploring with you.

After achieving relaxation of any tense spots, do a little fingertip percussion on the muscled areas of the bottom's body. (Fingertip percussion is what a pianist does to strike several close keys all at once.) The fingers of one or both hands are crooked, and struck down in to the target area. Work the upper back, to either side of the spine, this way for a while. Do the same to the lower part of the buttocks, and down the backs of the legs. This sort of sensation is a perfect bridge between massage and flagellation; it's especially good for introducing beginners.

Now begin with the cane, tapping very lightly over the areas that had the percussion warm-up. Don't tap any bony areas; this is a good time to develop the habit of avoiding them. Use the cane tip to reach areas that have bone close alongside. The blows should have less force than your fingertips did; the cane is hard and stingy, and the idea is to introduce the cane without breaking the relaxed and trusting glow of your warm-up. Along with ordinary light taps, mix in a few that are feather-light; with practice you can deliver a flutter as light as the landing of a flock of butterflies. This is a wonderful contrast to harder strokes; as endorphins build up such a light flutter will often bring on a fit of giggles.

As you work, do single taps, double taps, quick flutters of various intensities. Your goal here is twofold. You are trying to teach the bottom that they cannot predict your strokes, but that it doesn't matter because they won't be harmed. It is a non-verbal trust-building exercise.. Done with care, you can give the bottom that wonderful open acceptance of whatever happens, the key to the very best bottom space.

Another key to good bottom space is breathing. Deep, careful breathing controls panic, and this is vital as intensity builds. Panic is really the unpleasant portion of pain; take panic away and what's left is just strong sensations. All kinds of wonderful things can be done with strong sensations...

If your bottom has ever done yoga, meditation, natural childbirth training, or anything like that, remind them that deep, slow breathing is important here, too. If they have never had such training, coach them as you go. If their breathing becomes short and choppy, ease up and remind them to relax and breathe deeply (unless they're coming, of course; that's to be encouraged, not interrupted with good advice!)

If your other hand keeps up a steady contact with caresses and massage, not only will it relax and comfort the bottom but you will be able to detect twitches, tension, or relaxation. Especially with bottoms who aren't very verbal or vocal, this is the best feedback you can have.

If they are vocalizing, watch out for a sharp edge to their tone. It warns of gradually building tension - if you continue to hear it, something isn't working, the bottom space is eroding. The muscles under your other hand should be more and more relaxed as the caning proceeds; if not, it's also a sign that your buildup is not succeeding. This sign is apparent even in a silent bottom.

As you gradually build the intensity, one useful trick is to follow a harder blow with a quick light rain of flutter strokes, right into the same area. These will distract the bottom from any overload (within reason) and take them back to the bottom space that has just been successfully processing light stuff. However, the harder blow will have done its work of moving the whole scene to a slightly higher level.

Further Cane Technique

If your warm-up has opened the way for more powerful strokes, care must be taken. Canes may seem stiff, but a hard stroke can bend them ninety degrees and more, and a wraparound with a cane can be downright dangerous. Wraps are most common when a top goes to full power, after a well-aimed series of warm-up or measuring strokes. The problem is in the top's body dynamics: the momentum of the arm goes up exponentially with increased speed, so the whole body is pulled forward as a heavier stroke is delivered. The full-power stroke automatically reaches several inches further than the lighter stroke that was supposed to "gauge the distance". It's physics; you can't keep it from happening, any more than you can walk on the ceiling. What you can do is allow for it, and train yourself to compensate. You can ease your feet back a bit, or pull your elbow or shoulder back as part of the swing. Or you can do as Mistress Nan Burrows recommends, and take your aiming stroke so that the cane tip lands in the middle of the far cheek, no further. This aiming point will land a full-power stroke that safely spans the full width of the buttocks and no further.

If you do wish to play with harder strokes, practice! Learn to pay close attention to where your cane is landing; this is how you learn to correct your aim. Mistress Nan advises a lot of practice on a cushion. There is a certain kind of upholstery that shows the stroke, but each blow shakes the surface and erases the trace of the preceding blow. Perfect feedback! The upholstery looks to be a kind of heavy-duty velvet; check thrift stores.

When you are ready to try powerful strokes on a human partner, try putting a cushion or blanket roll on the far side of them. This will catch a wraparound harmlessly. Be sure to confine hard strokes to the buttocks below the tailbone and the upper half of the thighs.

Caning and Other Pleasures

Sexual connections: perhaps a quarter of women, and a very few men, can actually get orgasms from the cane. I think this is incredibly hot, and it makes me very jealous! There will be others who may not actually climax, but get extremely turned on, which can offer a pleasant answer to the question of "what do we do next?"

The shock waves made by a cane are directional - they tend to continue through the target in the general direction the cane was moving when it hit. In fact, if you slide a hand under your partner's thigh or belly, you can feel the shock of a medium cane stroke go right through them. The "sweet spot" in the lower butt, to either side of the crack, is sweet for this reason; blows here can send waves up into a whole complex of muscles, nerves, and engorged tissue that is directly involved with sexual excitement. Many bottoms will enjoy a steady rhythm of light or medium blows on the sweet spot - especially if they are angled to send their shock waves up and forward. At least one lady I know has called the effect a "rattan vibrator".

One good sign of this sexual connection is a face-down bottom whose hips begin to rise and fall in a steady rhythm. You might try matching that rhythm, with light or medium strokes. Or use your other hand to massage the nerve points around the pelvic dimples and to either side of the last few inches of the spine.

Power and Roleplay

Often when I do this, the scene is "pure S/M", sensation for sensation's sake. No roleplay, and no more power exchange than a massage. The concern for smoothness, the bottom's comfort and welfare, and cooperation is difficult to reconcile with many of the traditional roles and scenarios, where the top and bottom play as adversaries. However, there are a few roles possible wherein the person who hits you is not an enemy!

Mentor/Ritualist: The top is a trainer, preparing and coaching the bottom for some ritual ordeal. Or passing on the secrets of mind control, wherein pain becomes ecstasy. Or trying to send the bottom on an astral observation of whatever, or a spirit journey, etc.

Comrade: Who is preparing an agent, or coaching a fellow prisoner, to resist/survive an interrogation. (Of course, the interrogation can follow later, with the top moving into a new role, or new tops coming in for that part.)

Science Fiction: The aliens whose ship crashed think they can recharge the damaged drive crystals, but only by tapping the energy mobilized in what turns out to be this scene.

Some of these may sound hokey, but roleplay always sounds hokey to anyone who is not motivated toward that particular scenario. Find a script that works for you, and suspension of disbelief will come much more easily.

Also, endorphins can lead many bottoms into a profound submissive space. If you enjoy serious D/S or role play, you may find this endorphin-oriented warm-up offers a startlingly good beginning to a more psychological sort of scene.